The invisible bubble that keeps you safe (and limits your potential)
Every moment of every day, whether you realise it or not, you are surrounded by an invisible bubble.
The bubble protects you from the world outside. It keeps you safe. It helps you cope with reality, maintain a sense of normality, and manage your day-to-day business.
And it limits your potential.
The bubble is created by your beliefs - your ideas about yourself, about the world, and about reality. Many of these beliefs are useful and harmless. But some of them are misguided and limiting.
Limiting beliefs are with you at all times. But because they are so close and familiar, you don't even see them. You have forgotten they exist.
Only when you see your limiting beliefs can you truly wake up and be motivated to make a change. A wonderful thing happens when you ‘pop the bubble’ of your beliefs. You see things as they really are. Possibilities open up. You trust and take new action. You grow.
I've met people who have been victims of their own beliefs for years. They've been stuck in one place in their career and the fear of failing or not knowing what to do next keeps them from taking a risk and making a change. Generally, the sooner a person sees their limiting beliefs and starts to think differently, the better chance they have to get what they really want in life.
But just because you see your limiting beliefs and start thinking differently it doesn't mean that change and transformation will happen quickly. Each of us has a lifetime of limiting beliefs to unload and that process will take time. I promise you.
People hire me to coach them and what mainly happens in our process together is that we ‘pop’ the bubble many times, until limiting beliefs and fears disappear. Instead, they become inspired and motivated people who live their lives coming from love.
When I coach someone, a very special bond develops between us. Because we spend so many hours in deep conversation, it's sometimes hard to see immediate results as we're still inside the process.
But once in a while, at very special moments, I get to watch a person's life transform and feel the pride and joy in doing what I do. That's a big part of why I love to coach. I love the ability to wake a person up, show them their own limiting beliefs and guide them towards living a life filled with love and integrity.
One such person is Rochelle Seltzer, a powerful woman I’ve coached for a few years now. I want to tell you why you need to know about her.
I met Rochelle while presenting a weekend seminar to a group of creative agency owners in Boston back in 2009. At the time Rochelle had been running a medium size design firm for many years. I remember how engaged Rochelle was during that workshop and how excited she was to learn from me.
Soon after that weekend, she hired me as her coach to help her grow her agency. What she didn't realize was that she hired me to help her grow herself.
Rochelle's own limiting beliefs were getting in the way of her growth. She wasn't motivated to grow her design firm much and was feeling pretty burnt out. Her heart wasn't in it anymore. She was clueless to what she could become outside of being a designer. She felt stuck.
It wasn't until Rochelle let go of her old beliefs and started believing in herself and her creativity that transformation started to happen.
After about a year of coaching, Rochelle decided to sell her firm and follow her heart to discover who she wanted to become. She gracefully said farewell to a career as a designer and creative agency owner, and became a student again. She slowed down her life enough to be able to listen to what her heart truly wanted. And she fell in love with coaching - and trained as a coach herself.
Today Rochelle is in a whole new place. A bigger place. A place where she is working in concert with her mind and heart. A coach and creative healer with special talents and gifts that serves our creative industry in a whole new way.
I have tremendous respect for Rochelle, for following her heart and going through the rough parts to get to where she is today. I am sure she will agree that her journey of transforming wasn't always easy, but was well worth the hard work.
This is a proud moment for a coach. A moment where I get to witness an evolution, a healing of a person, and to celebrate their contribution to the world. I'm humbled at the power of coaching and want to celebrate it with you too. I invite you to take a few minutes and visit Rochelle's website, read some of her articles and do some of the creative exercises she created for you.
How to identify (and change) your limiting beliefs
There’s a very good chance you’ve created a limiting belief that is stopping you from doing what you think you can’t. But how can you detect that invisible bubble?
Your self awareness is key. Start listening to yourself talk, and notice where in your life you find yourself saying “I can’t…” or “I don’t know how…”
The more you catch yourself saying “I can’t”, the more you can start seeing the bubble you’ve created. And when that happens, challenge the thought.
Ask yourself: “Really? Says who?”
You may be surprised at the insight that comes up in that moment.
If you start doing the things you think believe you ‘can’t’ do and stop doing the things you believe you ‘should’ do you’ll start experiencing life on a whole new level.
What beliefs have YOU overcome?
Have you ever become aware of a limiting belief and let go of it?
What happened? What did you learn?
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