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The invisible bubble that keeps you safe (and limits your potential)

Every moment of every day, whether you realise it or not, you are surrounded by an invisible bubble.

The bubble protects you from the world outside. It keeps you safe. It helps you cope with reality, maintain a sense of normality, and manage your day-to-day business.

And it limits your potential.

The bubble is created by your beliefs - your ideas about yourself, about the world, and about reality. Many of these beliefs are useful and harmless. But some of them are misguided and limiting.

Limiting beliefs are with you at all times. But because they are so close and familiar, you don't even see them. You have forgotten they exist.

Only when you see your limiting beliefs can you truly wake up and be motivated to make a change. A wonderful thing happens when you ‘pop the bubble’ of your beliefs. You see things as they really are. Possibilities open up. You trust and take new action. You grow.

I've met people who have been victims of their own beliefs for years. They've been stuck in one place in their career and the fear of failing or not knowing what to do next keeps them from taking a risk and making a change. Generally, the sooner a person sees their limiting beliefs and starts to think differently, the better chance they have to get what they really want in life.

But just because you see your limiting beliefs and start thinking differently it doesn't mean that change and transformation will happen quickly. Each of us has a lifetime of limiting beliefs to unload and that process will take time. I promise you.

People hire me to coach them and what mainly happens in our process together is that we ‘pop’ the bubble many times, until limiting beliefs and fears disappear. Instead, they become inspired and motivated people who live their lives coming from love.

When I coach someone, a very special bond develops between us. Because we spend so many hours in deep conversation, it's sometimes hard to see immediate results as we're still inside the process.

But once in a while, at very special moments, I get to watch a person's life transform and feel the pride and joy in doing what I do. That's a big part of why I love to coach. I love the ability to wake a person up, show them their own limiting beliefs and guide them towards living a life filled with love and integrity.

One such person is Rochelle Seltzer, a powerful woman I’ve coached for a few years now.  I want to tell you why you need to know about her.

I met Rochelle while presenting a weekend seminar to a group of creative agency owners in Boston back in 2009. At the time Rochelle had been running a medium size design firm for many years. I remember how engaged Rochelle was during that workshop and how excited she was to learn from me.

Soon after that weekend, she hired me as her coach to help her grow her agency. What she didn't realize was that she hired me to help her grow herself.    

Rochelle's own limiting beliefs were getting in the way of her growth. She wasn't motivated to grow her design firm much and was feeling pretty burnt out. Her heart wasn't in it anymore. She was clueless to what she could become outside of being a designer.  She felt stuck.

It wasn't until Rochelle let go of her old beliefs and started believing in herself and her creativity that transformation started to happen.

After about a year of coaching, Rochelle decided to sell her firm and follow her heart to discover who she wanted to become. She gracefully said farewell to a career as a designer and creative agency owner, and became a student again. She slowed down her life enough to be able to listen to what her heart truly wanted. And she fell in love with coaching - and trained as a coach herself.

Today Rochelle is in a whole new place. A bigger place. A place where she is working in concert with her mind and heart. A coach and creative healer with special talents and gifts that serves our creative industry in a whole new way.

I have tremendous respect for Rochelle, for following her heart and going through the rough parts to get to where she is today. I am sure she will agree that her journey of transforming wasn't always easy, but was well worth the hard work.

This is a proud moment for a coach. A moment where I get to witness an evolution, a healing of a person, and to celebrate their contribution to the world. I'm humbled at the power of coaching and want to celebrate it with you too. I invite you to take a few minutes and visit Rochelle's website, read some of her articles and do some of the creative exercises she created for you.  

How to identify (and change) your limiting beliefs

There’s a very good chance you’ve created a limiting belief that is stopping you from doing what you think you can’t. But how can you detect that invisible bubble?

Your self awareness is key. Start listening to yourself talk, and notice where in your life you find yourself saying “I can’t…” or “I don’t know how…”

The more you catch yourself saying “I can’t”, the more you can start seeing the bubble you’ve created. And when that happens, challenge the thought.

Ask yourself: “Really? Says who?”

You may be surprised at the insight that comes up in that moment.

If you start doing the things you think believe you ‘can’t’ do and stop doing the things you believe you ‘should’ do you’ll start experiencing life on a whole new level.

What beliefs have YOU overcome?

Have you ever become aware of a limiting belief and let go of it?

What happened? What did you learn?

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Getting clients vs. enrolling clients

Getting clients will only get you more projects but enrolling clients will create programs that lead your clients to places only you can take them.

Most marketing and sales programs will teach you how to "get" clients. That's what every business owner wants, isn't it? Without clients you have no business.  A successful business requires that your attention always stays focused on "getting" the next client.  Right?

But "getting” clients feels like fishing from a leaky boat. It is very unpredictable. You cast your net hoping to catch a client while praying that the client you catch is actually a healthy one.  Meanwhile the bottom of your boat is filling with water.

I meet many agency owners who continually cut bait and cast lines desperately trying to "get" a client. Some even give their work away just to prove they are worthy to do the work. Proposals become auditions and RFPs feel like the next request for a dog and pony show.

No one wants to work like this.  And no client wants to be "caught" either.  Healthy clients want to be led, guided and served. So rather than trying to "get" your next clients, change your mindset.  Look for clients who you can enroll in working with you.

When you enroll a client the relationship shifts immediately to positioning YOU as the expert.  You become the attractive commodity the client needs, not vice versa. Your client’s thinking shifts from hiring you to engaging with you. You call the shots of how much it costs to work with you, what the results will look like and how long it takes to do your work. In other words, you get to truly lead.

The idea of "getting" anything comes from fear-based business thinking that, sadly, is rampant in our creative industry. Fear stops us from truly leading and is ultimately the core of all our business development problems. Fear based thinking is not only destructive; it’s contagious. Not only do we manufacture it ourselves, but we can catch it from others. Just attend any design conference and you can sense the fear in the room.

Getting clients is a reactive approach and reactive thinking is the hallmark of fear mode. If you are "getting” clients you have to persuade them that you are the best choice for the job and often times you have to compete for the work. Your marketing becomes reactive, desperate, and unfocused.

Fear-based sales and marketing is what most creative people know and it is the chief reason that business owners hate selling and avoid marketing. When you "get" a client, you are positioned as a vendor, someone who can be replaced at any given moment. Your fear of being replaced then causes you to work in people-pleasing mode leading to stupid decisions that ultimately cost you more than you bargained for.

So how do we get out of fear?  Fear is simply the absence of love. When you love your business, love your clients and love yourself you work from a totally different, love-based, approach to your business development and leadership. Your sales and marketing stops being about you, your accomplishments and your awards and starts being all about serving your clients and transforming their world.

 When you create programs for your clients to enroll in you become one of a kind. You show up as someone with unique expertise and a whole new playing ground for you to lead your clients into. You now have something different to offer, something unique and valuable. And oh, yeah, you also have the wherewithal to charge a lot more for your work.

Enrolling clients becomes an invitation not an audition.  Now, what you sell is not simply the outcome of your work but the experience of working with you and your unique point of view.

It's a simple distinction to remember: "getting" comes from fear; "enrolling" comes from love. Projects become programs and clients become your followers.  Bring more love into your business and create the next big program for your clients to enroll in. 


 

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Why I decided to leave Facebook.

Four years ago, a good friend of mine who lives in Sydney, Australia, visited me. We had not seen each other for a couple of years. We missed each other and created the time to meet and enjoy each other's company. By the end of our meeting, my friend invited me to connect with him on Facebook. "It will be a great way for us to keep in touch," he said.

I'd been reluctant to join the Facebook bandwagon for a while until that moment. But, my friend had some good persuasion skills and the next day I created an account and started inviting people I know to connect.

I had a simple rule about accepting friends, I said yes to people I knew personally and to people I have some kind of a relationship with already. Soon enough the friends counter passed the 100 mark, then 200, then 300, then 400 until it peaked at about 480. That's a lot of people to know.

Facebook is a wild frontier of online communication. There weren't really any rules on to how to use Facebook. Everyone who is on it uses it differently. It was an interesting social experiment to observe how people chose to show up in this space and what they chose to say to the world. Some use Facebook as a way to vent out frustrations, some use it to share inspiring things they find on the internet, some use it to simply jot down random thoughts or share photos of important moments in their lives.

Facebook turned me into a voyeur. There was something mysterious, exciting and most of all, addictive about this space. I was seeing parts of people's lives that I would normally see or know about and frankly, most of it wasn't so interesting to me. Little by little, I hid people from my news feed as I was tired of seeing what they ate for breakfast or another YouTube cat video. Slowly, my newsfeed became sparse and even less interesting.

But, most of all, I noticed that I wasn't really connecting to my friends like I used to. Facebook turned us into lazy friends. We didn't seek spending real time together or having a real live conversation any more because we pretty much knew everything that was going on in each other's lives already. Facebook provided an artificial sense of connection.

Earlier this year, I took a three month sabbatical and logged off Facebook for that time. It wasn't easy, but it was part of my intention to take total time off. After returning from my sabbatical, I started to reconnect with friends and clients mostly via email. We set up time to meet or talk right away. We missed each other. And when we talked, we had wonderful, deep conversations, we shared the good and bad news in our lives and we made a deep connection. I believe this was possible to achieve only because we had time to be apart from each other without Facebook keeping us connected.

Last week, I stumbled upon an article by Owen Williams titled "Leaving Facebook is the best thing I ever did." Owen asked "Take a look at your Facebook search history. When was the last time you actually had a conversation with half of those people?"

So, I did. And discovered that the number was shockingly low. Out of almost 500 people, in the past year I had a real live conversation with less than 50. And of those 50, half were my family and the rest were my close intimate friends.

It became clear that there wasn't much value or interest in staying on Facebook to maintain relationships. I much prefer putting time and effort into connecting to the people I care about the old-fashioned way. I am looking for the kind of friends who are willing to make an effort beyond "liking" something I say.

Facebook is changing from being a social network of connecting friends and loved ones to a strong marketing tool for businesses. Earlier this year, I started a professional page where I've been posting insights, news and announcements. I currently have about 130 people who are getting my posts and those are people who are part of my tribe.

I see the value of keeping Facebook as a marketing tool. For some people, Facebook is the only channel of receiving news and information. That's what Facebook has become for me. I've been "liking" pages by my favorite recording artists, brands I am interested in and people who act as good curators to things I am interested in. I'm finding it valuable to visit my Facebook page for news and information.

Un-friending people one-by-one at first brought some guilt and sadness, but the kind you get when you're leaving a party, not the relationship. I sent each of my Facebook friends a personal message explaining why I am about to unfriend them and how I plan to use Facebook in my life from now on.

Surprisingly, many of my friends responded saying "I'm thinking of doing exactly that" when they received my message. Who knows, I may be starting a trend here. Until then, I'm going to enjoy my freedom and liberation and dedicate my time to things that matter more.

How to avoid nightmare clients (and keep the good ones coming back)

Have you ever taken on a new client only to discover you’ve signed on with a nightmare? Not long after the engagement starts, you come to realize that this client needs constant attention.  They are unorganized and unprepared.  They take forever to make a decision.  They don't listen to your advice.  They try to tell you how to do your job.  You’re miserable and you’re probably losing money by keeping them around.

This is not a client problem. This is a leadership problem. There can only be one leader in your client relationship and if you aren't the one leading, your client will, and that's when it starts becoming a nightmare.

Bad clients are no fun, but they are good for business in one way. Bad clients highlight the areas that need improvement in your leadership skills. Business owners need to recognize that we are the cause for the bad clients who keep coming back, and change our business.  The more difficult a client is, the bigger the need to look in the mirror and ask why this client was attracted to you in the first place.

Your ideal client is looking for leadership, not for execution of their bad ideas. When you choose to show up as a leader, you'll start getting clients who want to be led.  But those amazing clients need to trust that you will lead them to where they want to go.  And for that trust to develop, your clients needs to know why you’re in business.

Simon Sinek, author of Start With Why, teaches: "People don't buy what you do; they buy why you do it. And what you do simply proves what you believe.” Unless you lead your business with what you believe, what you stand for and why you do it, you become just another service provider that's ready for the client to lead the way.

If you want to be a leader in your organization, you must have a clear vision of why your business exists. What's your purpose? What's your vision? What's your dream?

Many creative businesses waste time and energy on marketing activities that lead nowhere because most marketing is simply saying "look at me and how good I am" which looks needy, creepy and unattractive to your ideal clients.  Stop leading with your skills and start leading with your mission. That's when the ideal clients appear.

When I started coaching business owners years ago, I used to take on any client that had a checkbook. I figured that as long as money was coming in and I was busy, I was doing well. It didn't take too long before I started getting frustrated with my business as I was getting the wrong kind of clients. Even more frustrating, I wasn’t seeing the kind of results and change I wanted my clients to experience. 

One of my mentors told me, "It matters more where you are coming from, rather than where you are going." What he was talking about was the "why." Unless I was clear about my purpose (where I am coming from), every action I would take would be misguided and lead to bad clients and marketing that goes nowhere.  I realized that the problem started with me.  I didn't have a clear vision or purpose. I was in business to satisfy my own insecurities and fears. It was more about making money than making a difference. So, I took time to closely examine my why, connect to my purpose and show up as a true leader. And that’s when my business transformed.

If you want to be the kind of leader that your clients respect, listen to and pay well, here are a few ideas to consider: 

1. Get clear on your why.

Your purpose will be a powerful force when it's clear and defined.  Unless you are fueled by a purpose that is bigger than you and not about you, you'll keep attracting the kind of clients that only see you as a vendor and not as a leader.  When you are totally clear on your why it becomes part of what you are known for. That's a powerful way to attract amazing clients who believe in what you stand for and want to support that mission, too.

2. Tell a different story.

Your marketing is the story you tell the world, so choose to tell a story that comes from a place of expertise, knowledge and leadership. Your marketing needs to be less about the results you bring your clients and more about how you can lead them to where they want to go. Your marketing needs to always support a bigger vision that is in line with making a difference in your client's world. That's when you'll stop attracting bad clients and start getting advocates and supporters.

3. Raise your rates.

A client who says, "I can't afford you" isn't seeing your true value. That's probably because you aren't seeing it either. Clients who make their decisions based on money are acting from fear and will not be open to being led. They will want to control the process and not listen to your advice. As scary as it may sound, the best way to make bad clients go away is to charge more. If you are afraid to charge more you are probably afraid to lead your clients in other ways as well.  Leaders don’t come from fear.

4. Say "no" more often.

You probably take clients on quicker than you should. Slow down your client enrollment process and take the time to discern if the client is a good fit for you.  Don't be afraid to tell your clients how YOU work and what you are looking for in a client. By describing your ideal client to an interested prospect, you are leading them toward rising up to work with you rather than bringing you down to be seen only as a vendor.

Your best clients will come when you become a true leader.  Leaders come from love, purpose and the desire to make a difference. Leaders who know their value and believe in something that is bigger than they are will have no problems with saying no. Your best clients are waiting for you to lead them. It's up to you to make that choice.

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What I did (and who I became) on my winter sabbatical 

Part  I :: THE DOING

People take sabbaticals for different reasons. Some take time to work on personal projects (like writing a book), some take an extended vacation (and travel the globe) and some simply rest and recuperate.

The word sabbatical comes from the Hebrew root "Shabbat" which in its essence means "to stop". In religious teachings, the Torah mandates that Jewish farmers work for six years and then take the seventh year for rest, literally letting the fields rest and recuperate. The sabbath day according to the biblical creation story is the day where creation stopped and God rested. In our modern world, our secular weekend follows the tradition of resting on a Sabbath day.

Growing up in Israel, Saturday ("Shabbat") is a sacred day that is celebrated and honored. It was a day where the country pretty much shut down. There was no public transport, no retail stores open, no television broadcast. We had no choice and nothing to do but rest and have a day off to do nothing. As I child, I used to get frustrated that there weren't many options to do things like shopping or going to the movies or watching television but today I appreciate having those special days.

Around fifteen years ago I heard Stefan Seigmester give a talk at a design conference about taking a year sabbatical, or what he called "my year without clients". He traveled to Bali, he wrote a book, he made art. He even gave a TED talk about the experience. I remember sitting in the audience listening to him with envy and admiration. The thought of taking a year without clients, or any time to rest, sounded so far-fetched at that time. I was busy running my own design firm, and my business was not set up to run without me for more than a couple of weeks max.

But a seed was planted.

Fast forward to the beginning of 2012. By now, I'm four years past closing my design firm and leaving my designer identity behind. I went through a personal metamorphosis of changing career paths and I successfully created a coaching practice that has become fulfilling, sometimes challenging but overall exciting and rewarding. More so, I spent those four years growing in deep and profound ways. I hired some of the best coaches and mentors in the world and with their help and guidance I healed a few important areas in my life. I learned to love myself more than ever, I became financially free and got in touch with my true creative spirit. I became more present than ever and in turn, served my clients in the most powerful and transformative ways.

My business was in a good place. Money was flowing, clients were happy and I was doing some of my best work yet. For the first time in four years I felt like I was on solid ground again. I picked a theme for the year and declared it to be my "Year of Testing". I wanted to test new ideas, new products and new ways to live and work - including the decision to take a three-month sabbatical starting on the winter's solstice (December 21st) and ending on the spring equinox (March 21st).

Now, I don't want you to think that taking a sabbatical was an easy decision for me to take. I had to go past some beliefs and fears that were getting in the way of making this commitment to myself. Fears that my business will suffer, fear that my clients will go away, fear that I will have to start building everything from scratch and fear of no income coming in for months.

This fear is a valid one. Or so I thought at the time. My business model is not based on passive income. There's no "money while I sleep" coming in enough to cover the living expenses and then some (I do love my luxuries!). I earn most of my money only when I serve my clients in real time through coaching, speaking and consulting work. I didn't want to tap into my savings.  So while I was still working I had to create about 30% more income than I would have normally to cover the three months of no income plus the time it would take me when I returned from sabbatical to prime the pump and get money flowing again through new clients and projects.

My fear emerged as a result of having no plan in place or knowledge on how I was going to make something so unknown happen. I caught myself in this fear mode. Fear was pretty much the only thing holding me back from doing something I really wanted after. I quickly reminded myself what I teach my clients: "Fear is a result of lack of information or knowledge". And sometimes it is a result of not trusting the unknown.

I knew that for this fear to go away I needed to do two things: (1) Trust that everything will be ok and that I have the power to create anything I want and (2) turn the sabbatical dream into a project and treat it as such with a plan and strategy in place.

I had about a year to make it all happen. A sabbatical was a healthy goal for me and since I am the kind of person who is motivated by goals I was all set to take this one on. I was excited, inspired and ready to make 2012 my best year yet knowing that there's a beautiful gift waiting for me at the end of the year: three months of rest and white space.

The year turned out to be creative, rewarding and busy. Very busy. I got a lot done, way more than I was set out to do. In 2012 I made the most money I’ve yet made in a year of speaking, teaching and coaching.  In one very full year I launched a newsletter and published 9 issues; launched a weekly blog; taught workshops in LA, Boston and St. Louis; presented live webinars; taught a marketing class at ArtCenter School of Design; lead a ten-week mentoring group; hosted a roundtable business event for AIGA/LA; lead a "21 Days to Creative Flow" virtual group program for some of my coaching clients; delivered a talk and a half-day workshop at the HOW Design Conference; lead two 4-day group retreats in Palm Desert, CA; produced a 20 minute video keynote talk; all while  coaching 30 individual clients  for a total of 517 coaching hours.

Whew! That's a lot. And although I'm good about creating work/life balance and took regular days off and vacation during the year, I was definitely ready for a longer break.

Part II ::  THE STOPPING

I had many ideas on how I wanted to spend my sabbatical. Three months can go by really fast and I wanted to get the most value out of the experience. The last time I had this much time off was high school summer break, when I didn’t have the commitments and responsibilities I do today. That was almost 30 years ago and I've put a lot of personal projects on hold to move my career forward.

I couldn't wait for this white space. I kept thinking about all the books I wanted to read, the writing I wanted to do, the art I wanted to make, the personal projects I wanted to work on and the travel abroad (my husband and I had a two week cruise planned in New Zealand and Australia).

The big day finally arrived. On December 21st, I celebrated the beginning of winter by I logging off Facebook and twitter, turning the phone off, and logging off email with the following auto-response return message:
 

I'm currently taking a three month sabbatical and not checking email. I'm spending much of my time writing, making art and traveling to New Zealand!

So that I don't return to a massive email overload in the spring I've asked my email server to delete all emails that come in, including yours.

Please don't take this personally. I'm giving myself a break from email and social media and would love to hear from you when I return.

So please… write me back again after March 21st, 2013

or…

If this is an urgent or important matter please contact my lovely assistant Danielle at danielle@pelegtop.com who will be minding the business while I'm away. Danielle will make sure your message is delivered to me promptly.

See you in the spring!


Aside from being the first day of winter, December 21st also happens to be around the same time many people take their holiday vacations and take time off. Frankly, the first couple of weeks didn't really feel any different than the normal holiday break. And as the year was quickly coming to a close I was consumed with seeing friends and family and all the other holiday-related activities one might be engaged with.

And then the new year began. Everyone was going back to work and to their normal routine. The energy in the air shifted and the days started to feel different. And let me tell you, it was delicious. All the time in the world to do whatever I wanted. I didn't waste time. I had a list of projects to get to.

So I got busy.

First on the list was the thing that I do at the beginning of every year - meet a couple of my closest friends and together go through a process of reflection on the past and intention setting for the future. During the span of a week we meet and share our highs and lows from the past year and together set intentions for our year ahead. And from that process a theme for the new year emerges. This theme keeps me on track and aligned with my values. It helps me create the year ahead with that intention in mind.

My theme for the new year was “My Year of Organizing". I wanted to organize my space, my resources, my archives, my content, my books, my music, my art, my money and most of all, my thoughts.

Being the master multitasker that I am, in the next four weeks I managed to juggle as many personal projects as I could. I set up and organized a new art studio room at home, organized all my books, organized the garage, organized old file cabinets and drawers, organized my taxes, and started the two most monumental organization projects yet - the ones I've been waiting to start on for at least a decade - organizing my photos and my music.

In between all that busywork, I was already thinking and planning what the rest of the year will look like after I return from my sabbatical. So I flew to Atlanta for two days to work with a business and marketing coach to create my business plan for 2013 (yes, even a coach needs a coach!).

But all that busywork and all the doing finally caught up with me. I started getting sick. I woke up one morning on the sixth week with a sore throat and swollen glands. My body was sending me a clear message: "You are doing too much". I've learned to listen to my body and know that whenever these kind of symptoms show up, I need to press the pause button, look at what's going on in my life and make some adjustments.

Although I was enjoying all my wonderful projects I was still doing doing doing.  Instead of resting I was still creating.  I wasn’t honoring the Sabbath. I wasn’t on sabbatical.  I wanted to feel renewed and rested, I wanted to recuperate and yet I wasn't giving myself the space to stop doing and just be. I was addicted to doing and it was time for an intervention.

The fixation to doing has always been a strong part of my personality style. I'm wired that way. I love doing, I love getting things done and I love getting results from the doing. It's easy to get lost in doing what you love and I truly love what I do. I love being busy so even when “resting” it's easy for me to get carried away and keep myself occupied with personal project. But in essence, I'm still doing.

I needed to stop the doing and truly rest. Halfway through my sabbatical I was feeling no more rested or recuperated than when I began. So I decided to stop all the "doing" cold turkey. I stopped working on the projects I had started, cancelled all the social engagements in my calendar and went into total hibernation mode.

It wasn't until I became mindful and intentional about resting that my body caught up with the idea and got the message. At that point, all I wanted to do was sleep. And I was OK with that. For the coming weeks I would sleep for almost twelve hours a night. I was giving my body what it truly wanted.

But as delicious as the restful nights were, the days were a bit more challenging. Like an addict with his drug taken away, I started feeling the withdrawal symptoms from not doing. Darkness and depression crept up and I found myself asking the most important questions I've ever asked: "Who am I when I am not doing?".

I've learned and mastered experiencing my "being" through "doing" (and my self-love through the achievements that come from my doing), so when the doing mode stopped and I wasn't achieving anything, simply being was an unfamiliar and scary territory. Clearly I was being put to a test.

I breathed in, gathered my spiritual courage, and I accepted the challenge.  I embraced this space and realized that my fear and depression were an indication that there was some serious healing going on. Most of my life I've been driven by the need to succeed and be outstanding to the point of losing touch with who I really am. The need to look good, to be successful, to matter, has sometimes driven me to a point of losing touch with my being and my purpose. I know I can get carried away with creating way too much way too fast and for the wrong reasons, the wrong "why".

But now I had the opportunity to reconnect to myself and to change the way I inhabit the world. For the following weeks I simply relaxed, rested and experienced my being. Each activity that I engaged in (every "doing"), I approached with consciousness and mindfulness. I slowed down and got more present. I realized that being where and when I am is the most important place and time not some distant destination. And I began to feel how this approach to life could change everything for me.

I felt an inner sense of peace, calm, and trust. Eventually, I was truly happy with just being. I didn't need anything else. From here, the only way is forward.

Part III :: THE BEING

Twelve weeks is a long time to be disconnected. I missed my friends and clients. It was time to leave the cave and come back into the world. I didn't have much new work lined up for me to jump right back into. I knew there would be a re-entry period and that I would have to slowly gear things up. But frankly, I wasn't prepared for what happened next.

I started to reconnect with people and got excited about putting my business plan into action. I picked up where my business left off pre-sabbatical and like a race car, stepped on the gas and started driving fast.

And that's when I crashed.

After a week of getting back to work I woke up one morning with no energy, no desire and no interest to keep going. Once again my body and emotions were telling me something wasn’t working in my life. I looked at what I was doing and questioned to see if I’d created some mis-alignment between my actions and my core being.

I very quickly noticed that I had re-engaged with my old "doing" self. The business plan I created wasn't aligned with my heart anymore and I realized that I needed to pause, get present, pay attention to my what my intuition was telling me and proceed from there.

Pablo Picasso once said: "Every act of creation is first of all an act of destruction" so for me to get into a new creative mode I needed to destroy a few things in my business.  What I find most interesting is that the biggest changes that have taken place during this experience happened on the other side of the sabbatical.  But had I not taken that time to stop my old patterns I would not have arrived as this moment of clarity.

First, I threw away the old business plan (Sorry, coach!).  It had some good ideas that I will probably carry pick up again later but now it was time to create a new plan with deeper meaning and a core focus that is true to my heart. I took a look and compared the things I am good at vs. the things that are most true to who I am.

As I cleared the space and looked deeper into my core being a new purpose, a new theme emerged. A stronger "why" than ever before. A why that would make significant difference in the world, especially for creative entrepreneurs.

Next, I questioned every part of my business model: my private coaching programs, groups, workshops, retreats, speaking, writing, publishing and how I market and deliver my thinking to you. I needed to prune, edit and stay focused.  I made some bold choices. Now I’m getting close to rolling out a new plan for my work/life.  I’m almost there.  And I can’t wait to share it with you.

Needless to say, I'm on fire.  But I’m burning now with a desire for living fully into myself and into the world.  Not to do to impress, or from the temporary satisfaction that comes from achieving, but to enjoy the marvelous place and time I’m actually in.  Doing and creating are part of my core self.  And I honor that.  The world needs goals, and decisive action, and accomplishments.  I’m proud of my role as a coach, mentor, teacher, guide.  I love that I can inspire, create, produce and lead.  But there’s a way to “do” that also honors my “be”. 

Six days a week is plenty for the work the world needs.  We need a rest, too.  And if the work is the right work, done in the right way, then even the six days of work are an on-going expression of Shabbat.