The can't vs. the want to

Last year I started taking drum lessons. I often like to put myself in a student position mostly to remind me about and help me practice patience, humility and being present. 

My teacher is a young man in his early thirties who has been playing drums since he was 13 years old. Needless to say, he rocks. 

I knew I signed up to learn a new skill but what I didn't realize at the time was that I am about to get a whole lot of life wisdom from the process.  

My coach once told me ”how you do anything is how you do everything” so learning to play the drums has been a great way for me to see how I show up in the world. 

In my last session I was horrified to hear myself say the two words I never allow my coaching clients to say: ”I can't!” When my teacher instructed me to try a new beat (which he just beautifully played), a somewhat complicated Latin groove, I went into auto pilot and without even hearing myself say it, the words flew out of my mouth. 

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